Becoming A Titus 2 Woman

Women are encouraged in the book of Titus to pursue the next generation by teaching and being an example of what it looks like to be a woman of God.

The Apostle Paul stresses how important these relationships are in order to grow, live, and serve. Using Paul’s voice, God expressed His desire for wiser godly women to carry these specific qualities: "Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled." (Titus 2:3-5) A Titus 2 woman demonstrates the gospel through her love and devotion to God. She is wise and God fearing. Godly older women have simply taken Romans 12:1-2; 1 Corinthians 6:19-20; and Galatians 2:20 straight to the heart.

“…your Bodies presented as living sacrifices, holy, acceptable to God, not conformed to this world, but with transformed and renewed minds, in bodies that are temples of the Holy Spirit glorifying God in your body and spirit, which are God’s; no longer living for me, but Christ living through me.”

I believe God appoints these women, and when she listens for His voice and takes on the task of living out her God-given purpose as a Titus 2 woman, God will be sure she is perfectly positioned and within reach of who He needs her to share wisdom with. He has given us women and friends within the body of Christ to help us grow and serve. I am certain, you have either shared a part of your life with a Titus 2 woman or you already have a constant connection with her. How beautiful is God's love that it is His will for you to have her in your life?

Right now, you are either thinking of who she is or might have been. She may be the matriarch of your family, a female leader in your church or local ministry, a neighbor, a teacher from your past (or present), and for many of us she could simply be a close friend, acquaintance or even a sister. If you are in a season where you think a Titus 2 woman is not on your radar - perhaps you are at a phase in your life where it is time for you to take on the task and become the Titus 2 woman.

Some of you, like myself, have been blessed by more than one. I have had a spiritually appointed Titus 2 woman during many seasons throughout my own life. My number one is undisputed, my Mother. My Mom is an over-comer, a warrior, teacher, protector and true servant of God. She has been many places in her life that she did not personally choose to be, but she planted her feet and rooted her heart and soul right where she was. She clung to her Savior and to God with all that she could give and had to offer during those times. She always held her head high in every situation, proud of the life that she was gifted with and made for herself. There were moments where she was teaching me valuable lessons hands on about self-control, self-respect, not giving too much attention to things of this world and to focus more on the things that honor God.

She was at the time and still is a very strong pillar of faith in my family. There were also many, many moments where I sat silently and observed my Titus 2 mother. What I first hand, eye-witnessed were the most valuable lessons I could have ever learned from someone who was an immigrant from another country adapting to a new life, a new family and culture. I am so blessed to have qualities such as her strength and determination passed on to me. I also witnessed her devotion in her marriage to my Dad. The lessons I learned from observing my mother while she loved and cared for him through good times and the bad times are worth more than GOLD! She loved my Dad unconditionally until the end of his life. They were blessed to be married 50 years. At an early age, I had another godly Titus 2 woman who the Lord so graciously blessed me with. My beautiful Aunt Carma. Every young woman needs an Aunt Carma in my opinion. She was and still is beautiful, modest, kind, caring, loving, soft spoken with a gentle voice that was and still is like music to my ears. She really was to me, like my very own Disney princess. Her home was tidy, her meals were home cooked with love, she grew beautiful gardens, She used her sewing machine to make clothes, she even had her handsome prince, my uncle Paul. And, if I didn’t know any better I would believe that all the animals in the nearby forest would flock to her when I wasn’t looking. She didn’t know that was how I perceived her.

Everything she did, she did with a happy and grateful heart. The summers where I would visit her home for a few days didn’t go without a trip to their local church where I would witness that she and my uncle both were respected and held in high esteem by their fellow parishioners. Her pure spirit was felt and seen by others wherever she went and every place she would take me. Really. I saw them looking at her as if they were looking at an angel. I was always so proud to be with her.

One day, late in the afternoon she was nowhere to be found. I looked all over the house and finally stood at her bedroom door that I rarely if ever entered. But there she was sitting at her vanity putting on makeup. I walked over and asked, “Why are you putting on makeup?” As I mentioned earlier, it was late in the afternoon and we did not have plans to go anywhere. She sweetly and patiently turned to me and replied, “Because your Uncle Paul will be home from work soon. I like to freshen up and look nice when he comes home from work.” I would never forget that simple lesson. She gracefully mastered her busy life harmonizing perfectly her children, home, marriage, family and faith.

1 Peter 3:3-4 says of godly women, “Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses. but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.”

My aunt Carma flawlessly balanced these two qualities among so many others. I look at her and I see a woman who is precious in the sight of God. Aunt Carma was once my Disney princess, but now I recognize her as a daughter of the Most High King!

In my heart and His, she is royalty. Later on in life, I would gain another great Titus 2 woman, my mother in law- Julie. She taught me so much as she would live out her faith openly and trust in God daily. She would share God’s love and His promises not only to her family and friends regularly, but also with mere strangers. I know she was a favorite with her doctors and caregivers until the very end of her well lived life because of her faith. She was not only known to share the gospel with every living person she came in contact with, but she also served others in a Christ-like manner by sharing her gift of cooking. Her food was so delicious, but even more so was the word of God that she shared with each person she met. She served the bread of life and living waters to lost souls. Julie passed away in December of 2018. On the day of her funeral 2 people accepted Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior during the service. Through their new found salvation that she inspired; they will someday enter God’s kingdom and see her again. What a profound and appropriate way to memorialize a true Titus 2 woman! "Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her.” (Luke 1:45) Each of these women were perfectly positioned in my life exactly when I needed them. They each held a special gift, or knowledge, or you might say a seed that would take root and grow with me throughout my life. Being a Titus 2 woman is providing a road map for young women that will eventually strengthen her faith and fully equip her for her journey into God’s kingdom. If you have a daughter, granddaughter, nieces, and even daughter-in-laws, your desire should be that they have access to a Titus 2 woman in their lives; if you yourself have not already stepped into that role. Is there a young woman in your life right now that you can mentor? As the new year approaches and some of us make the decision to pick up the torch and become Titus 2 women; my prayer is that we will be creative in finding new ways to connect. I pray that we gain knowledge in how to move forward and strategically reach out in a world that is currently requiring social distancing. But, I believe the solution is simple- so don’t be discouraged.

Be sure to make it known that you are available to take her call at any given time and for any reason. You don’t have to be perfect, but always be prepared to give good, sound biblical advice. Your continued growth is very important in order to produce good fruit. You can do this by simply remaining steeped in God’s word. Ask permission (if you feel it is necessary) to call on and check up on your chosen young woman. Always offer to pray over her, or boldly say, “let me pray over you…”. By doing this, you are teaching her how to pray. Let's get back to the basics like the Apostle Paul and write encouraging letters, or send greeting cards with a shared scripture letting your young woman know you are thinking of her and praying for her often. Always invite the Holy Spirit to lead you in every conversation, in every card, letter, meeting or brief encounter. She will never forget you. Your bold actions and shared wisdom have the power to put her on the path towards a life of abundance through Christ.